An End of the Year Roundup for the Style Inclined
End-of-the-year and holiday time is amazing – but yes, let’s admit it – it can be overwhelming. You celebrate with your friends, employees and colleagues, check out the windows and the tree lighting, take time off for travel, close the sales cycle, ship it all out, spend time with family, shop for gifts and of course, look smart in your holiday style for endless parties.
It’s gorgeous and wild all at once! It’s also a good time to seek out insight about yourself and who you are as you get ready to start it all over again next year. Did you know your clothes are a valuable means of evaluating whether or not you are in line with your dreams, roles and goals? Yes, they are! Not only do they affect how others see you, they’re vital to your own ease and confidence. You can also use them to gain insight into yourself.
Here’s the truth: your clothes function like a barometer that indicates your happiness and alignment. If you always feel frustrated or bored as you dress or if you often say negative things about your look, then your clothes are informing you that a change has occurred in your life or your work. Do you feel dissatisfied with your wardrobe? Assessing your holiday style can show you how your tastes and look have evolved over the year. Answer these three questions, taken from my essential and intuitive style studies, and use your clothes as a way to assess and get ready for the new year.
Ask yourself questions about your dress habits in the year gone by.
What did I do to improve my clothes or my look? Did I try out a new pattern, color or accessory? Did I buy a new pair of shoes that look different from last year’s shoes? Did I add a new skin care ritual or hairstyle? Did I replace my everyday bag so it looks polished?
What are some things I didn’t quite get around to doing? Did I lose interest in looking great and went for just decent instead? Did that workout not really stick? Did I skip going to the tailor and wear the jacket with the sleeves too long? Is my holiday style just okay, not something I feel dazzling in?
Congrats on doing some of it and no worries on what didn’t happen. The point is that something became more valuable to you this year and other things fell away. If you look closely at what you did well, you will find where you want to be in your next role or what your next big dream is. And the converse is true. When you consider what you didn’t do for your look, you’ll see where your values or your role or even your body has changed. Next, you get to decide if regret over what didn’t happen is worth carrying around or if there’s something you can do for yourself to sort it out.
Now ask yourself questions about your self image.
What can I say, going forward, to admire my body and my look instead of being disappointed in it? What part of me is really attractive? Is it my eyes? Would I like a new haircut or glasses so others can see them? Do I have strong shoulders that make me feel vital and present? Can I wear a shirt or collar that shows them off? What do I want to emphasize when I look for a holiday style?
What rules or have-to’s can I let go of? Is it okay to skip the high heels and wear kitten heals instead so it’s easier to walk? Is it okay to wear luxury sneakers to work so I look current and marketable?
What can I say that is kind when I speak to myself? Can I try out new words like: I am healthy and strong, arrow-straight and vital, approachable and dependable or inventive and silvered?
When you listen to these answers, they come from deep inside and you don’t have to have a plan. And you don’t have to buy a single thing right now. Later on, when you’re looking at a magazine, reading online, commuting, shopping or scrolling through Instagram, you’ll get a spark when you see something that reminds you of your answers. That spark will alert you to pay attention to an idea on how to take an action.
Finally, ask yourself questions about next year.
Is there a role I’m tired of? Is there an expectation others have of me that I want to let go of? What task am I bored with at work or at home? Which piece of clothing is hanging in my closet that I don’t like? Is there something in there I think I should wear, but I never put on? Can I let it go? What will my holiday style be in December 2018?
Is there a hidden expression of me that would love a few moments in the spotlight? Am I fearless, arty, charming, stylish, welcoming, sensitive, intelligent, well-educated and mannered, vibrant, creative, sassy, good-humored, exotic, far-traveled, magnetic, deep, innovative, classy, elegant, funny, kind, romantic? What would I wear if I picked just one of those words so I could try it on?
The answers to these questions will lead you to three categories of clothes. The first are the ones you love and wear often. They’re the easy ones. The second type is the clothes you never wear or the ones you feel rotten in when you do wear them. And the third type? Those are the ones that are missing. Can you connect your answers above to a piece of clothing and then decide which category it’s in? If it seems a bit complicated, now is the time to let your intuition in. Let the connections happen and you will learn a whole lot about where your dreaming of going, the goals you want to take on and the roles in your life you want to let go.
Once you’ve spent some time daydreaming about your desires for next year, or considered how you want to inhabit your body or present yourself to others around you, I can help you further. We’ll start with assessing your holiday style and think about the past, present and future you and how you dress and express yourself. Schedule an appointment with me to discuss the “how” of your plan and I’d be happy to help you realize your dreams. And one more gift for you. Schedule for January and get $100 off the appointment. You will be so much closer to your dream of yourself!
Kerry Nitka Cordero is an expert Image Coach and Personal Stylist who is passionate about seeing her clients leading their fullest lives and experiencing their highest selves. She speaks, coaches and styles on all matters related to your best look. Contact her at firstname.lastname@example.org or at www.thefirstlookimage.com.